Heads Up For My Friend

Being there for someone else is one of the most important things you can do. Just because someone seems okay, doesn’t mean they are. A simple “Just checking in” or “You good?” can go a long way. Here’s what to know when you’re reaching out to a friend.

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988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline

If you or someone you know needs emotional support or is having thoughts of suicide, the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline is available by phone, text, or chat 24/7.

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Start the convo

Are you worried about a friend? Now’s the time to start a conversation. Here’s how:

“I know you’re dealing with a lot. But I’ve got your back.”

“Tell me what’s on your mind, I’m not here to judge.”

“Whenever you’re ready to talk, I’m here to listen.”

“Heads up, I’m always here.”

Be a listener

When you’re talking with someone who is having a hard time, you may want to solve their problems all at once. But it’s important to take things slow. Try not to overstep or tell them what to do. Your job is to make your friend feel comfortable so they can share what’s on their mind.

Checking in

Just because someone seems okay, doesn’t mean they are. A simple “Just checking in” or “You good?” can go a long way.

In some situations, your friend or peer may need to speak to a trusted adult, or call or text 988, or find support through the Massachusetts Behavioral Health Help Line.

Encourage that person to find support:

If they appear on edge, stressed, anxious, or worried for no reason.

If they tell you they’re experiencing physical symptoms like headaches, nausea, GI issues, increased breathing, or increased heart rate.

If they’re skipping or no longer participating in their favorite activities.

If they are sad, irritable, moody, or uninterested in things they used to enjoy.

If they tell you they’re having negative thoughts they can't seem to shake.

If they say they’re feeling guilty about things that don’t seem to be their fault.

If they are isolating, or avoiding friends and social activities.

If they are engaging in harmful behaviors, like drugs, vaping, or alcohol.

If they display intense mood swings or aren’t acting like themselves.

If they display paranoid behavior (ex, tell you they think people are trying to control their mind or hear voices that other people don’t hear).

If the person struggling can’t find outside support, you may want to reach out to a trusted adult on their behalf.

For any situation, in which you believe the other person is considering self-harm or thinking about suicide, call 988 immediately.

Find other helplines and mental health resources here.